Many people assume a divorce must be contested if there are a large number of assets, minor children involved or many years of marriage. This is untrue. It is possible to have an uncontested divorce in New York even with these factors involved, as long as both spouses are in agreement.
The best way to proceed is by reaching an agreement with your spouse prior to filing. Before filing a divorce action, if both parties agree on the grounds for divorce, division of assets, property and debt, child custody & visitation & visitation, support, and any spousal support, the divorce can be uncontested and appearance in court is not mandatory.